Thursday, June 14, 2012

Happily ever after..Myth? You be the Judge!

Happily ever after...Is it obtainable? What makes us crave the fantasy, the unknown, the HEA? Is it ingrained in our DNA...or taught to us as a child much like Santa Clause and the Easter Bunny? Have you ever met the ONE? That one person who is so similar to you that you feel whole when in their presence? That one individual who laughs at the same time, over the same thing as you? Who makes you feel alive for the first time in your life! Who doesn't judge you, or place blame? Who worships you, who feels pride over your accomplishments! Who's very touch sets you on fire...Who has the same goals in life, the same dreams! Who loves you for YOU and encourages you to be better! Another person so much like you, You feed off of each others energy? One who would protect you in one breath, and give you freedom in the next? What if that person really exists, and you find them in the wrong time and place? Do you curse fate, or embrace the wonder of it, that somewhere in this life, on this planet of millions, there walks another person that is your reflection...

As they say in Cinderella : It's not that they lived happily ever after, but that they lived.

21 comments:

  1. Oh my yes! I really do believe it. I believe that there is no perfect person, only one that's perfect for you...and that you both have to be willing to grow and change over time to continue into the ever after part. :)

    I also believe in the steadiness and silent support of a marriage/relationship in which both partners grow to love one another. That's a sweet and enduring love that surprises everyone involved.

    I'm just a sucker for romance. :D

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    1. Thanks for your thoughts Dawn! Of course you are...I read your Dragon series :D

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  2. I believe. I just don't buy into the 'everything must be perfect' theory. I look at marriage like a garden. You tend it carefully, make sure it has what it needs to thrive, and grow. I think some differences are a requirement too instead of being two peas in a pod. It keeps it interesting.

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  3. I dream of my HEA... I mean who doesn't! I believe that fate can place the ONE in your life it's just up to you to recognize it!

    <3 you Ditter!!

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  4. Yes and no.......yes, I believe that there is someone out there who completes each of us. A person who is so in tune to us that they fulfill our emotional, physical, and mental being and vice versa. I am one of the blessed few who has had one for 37 years. And no, because there is a danger in that belief. You can not look to that person to make you happily ever after. You have to love and respect yourself as well. There is truth to the old saying that in order to be able to love others, you have to love yourself. If you don't, you will have a hard time giving love back to the person who completes you. So YES, and no......

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    1. Pammie, You are very wise!! I loved your observation!

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  5. I believe in the HEA. Is it messy getting there? Sometimes, but who says the HEA was easy? I waited 37 years for my HEA and it was well worth it. Great post!

    Marika

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    1. Marika!! Thanks for posting! I'm happy for you...Not everyone gets the HEA! *Two thumbs up*

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  6. I do believe in happily ever after and I believe in soul mates. I think fate has a funny way of slapping us on our asses every chance it gets. We do have that one person out there that is the reflection of us, find that person is the trick ;) Its one reason I love fiction and romance so much, its a nice to see others get their perfect someone and its a guaranteed HEA!

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    1. You're right Fayth...The reflection is a beautiful, incredible, powerful thing! Thanks for posting, pretty Lady!

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  7. I love the idea of HEA. I think we all dream of that one person that might be out there that could blow all other lovers away. Even if that person did not exist it is fun to pretend he or she could. Besides what would life be without dreams and a great escape from reality? Probably pretty dang boring.

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  8. HEA is far from a myth, but the problem with the truth vs what authors l like myself write has more to deal with the work involved. In my romances, simple or complex conflicts don't have room to cover the little mundane shit that couples struggle through (like me staying at the cigar bar later than promised.)

    But the fact remains, if you want something bad enough, truly desire it, you can have it. It may require a lot of work, but nothing worth having ever doesn't.

    Happy Ditter?

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    1. Very happy Sascha! Thank you for your comment! I completely agree! As a matter of fact I'd like to find out more about your point of view...An interview perhaps?

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  9. I've been married to my HEA for almost 31 years. Can I say that every day has been happy? No. Do we fight? Yes. Would I change anything? NO! He gives me the freedom to be myself, to let me be me. Yet, we are very much a couple. I can't imagine life without him. He is about 7 years older than I am, and we fell in love at an inconvenient time for me. I was in college 2 hours away in college, with a full semester left before I could come home, get married. It was hard, but, it also gave us time and space that many don't have before marriage. We had only dated 2 months before he asked me to marry him, but we had known each other, been friends for 2 years before that.

    31 years later, we have 2 daughters, 2 sons-in-love, and 5 grandchildren with a sixth due in September.

    So...do I believe in Happily Ever After? Yep, I do!

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  10. I am a hopeless romantic so even if l haven't been married happily for the last nine years my answer would be a RESOUNDING YES! I feel like people don't work at it enough. They quit before giving love, forever, a real chance. Nobody said love was easy. But it is most definitely real.

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  11. Two are stronger than one! I think people stop learning each other after the first chapter. Someone gets hurt and they become slightly Jaded. They get hurt again and they no longer have the will to try.
    I think the saying goes that God gave us two of almost everything . two eyes , two ears . two feet, two hands. But why only one Heart? Because the other perfect Heart he created for us is out there waiting to be found. Perfection is the Myth... Only God can provide that. not a person. If all I ever do is dream about that person. Then at least I admit they are real.

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    1. Wow, Jimmy! I just saw this. That was beautiful....Hugs!

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