Sunday, July 15, 2012
What is jealousy? It's an emotion that stems from our own insecurities. I have never been a jealous person myself. Not that I haven't experienced it, I have...I just don't obsess over it! I have dealt with jealousy from others before and I must say...it will ruin a relationship faster than money problems! Which by the way is the number one cause of divorce in the United States! What causes us to have trust issues? I have heard it from the mouths of so many that it's caused from being cheated on. I don't think that's truly the case! I think it stems from cheating, not being cheated on! Our subconscious tends to think that others think and feel the same as we do. Therefore, if we have cheated, or are capable of cheating, we are automatically going to be insecure in our relationships. I have been guilty of it myself! I have cheated before, therefore I don't assume that I am not being cheated on. Make sense? I have also been the one that was cheated on. Here's the thing though...I asked my Dad once, long ago, if there was a man out there that wouldn't cheat! His reply to that was.. "Well, there are one or two....That SAY they wont, but no, there isn't a man that wont if given the right circumstance! So how do I take that....Hmmmm...Is it the "what you don't know wont hurt you" stand I should take, and turn a blind eye, or be watchful and exhausted all the time? I have talked with several Men about this subject, and they have all told me the same thing...If they do it, it means nothing to them...it's just an act in the moment! If a Woman does it, emotions are involved and therefore unforgivable in their book! So in other words...A Woman needs a reason to do it, and a Man just needs a place. Interesting. Any thoughts?