Tuesday, October 30, 2012

When it's over...

When is enough...
 At what point do you give up on someone? It's a difficult thing to do...especially for someone like me. When I care for someone it's hard for me to turn my back on them. This comes back to the head VS the heart in a previous post I blogged about. My head tells me to turn from it, shut it off and move on....my heart is telling me to keep the hand extended in hopes a friendship can be salvaged. The difficult part of this situation is, I'm not sure how many more direct hits my pride can take. You can only hold your hand out so long before the arm becomes exhausted. I have a very assertive personality...very blunt with little to no filter. Maybe that's the problem, not sure. The bottom line is, it's beginning to feel bad. After an extreme amount of emotional trauma recently, I'm doubting if I'm capable of holding on. Love and friendship are both difficult to let go of, but when the choice is taken from you, it leaves you defenseless...Not a good place to be. My advice to you (the reader) would be...If you have a good friend...cherish them, be careful who you trust, and treat that person with the same amount of respect you yourself would like to have bestowed upon you. Anything less will destroy...

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  1. I love this. As I've told you before, you are a very strong person. And at the same time, our hearts are a different story. As I read your words, I felt you talking to me on a subject I am going through as well. No words of wisdom from me, just know, you have truly touched me with this. Thank you my friend. I love you. I hope all the best for you. You truly deserve it. <3

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    1. Thank you Denise and i'm sorry you are going through a difficult time...I love you too <3

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  2. First let me say that I don't think there is a person out there that hasn't felt these same feelings and if there is, then lucky them. My heart goes out to you. Your question, at what point do you give up on someone? Answer: when you have tried at all costs to be their friend and have been cut off at every pass. I will walk beside you, and I might even rush to keep up with your pace, but I will not chase after something that chooses to run the other way. Sometimes people like the chase, sometimes people like the attention and sometimes people would rather you just leave them the heck alone and can't be honest with their feelings. Whatever the reason might be if it is hurting you than its time to move on. A true friendship is give and take on both sides and if you are always the giver, then you will find your heart bled dry. Sometimes the hardest part about being a friend is knowing when to let them go on their own path without you. Chin up, time heals all wounds. xoxooxo

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    1. Thank you Tonya....Always so wise!! I love you dearly <3

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  3. I completely agree! There are times that you finally just have to say your peace -- not in a horrible way -- but a truthful one, and then just move on.

    You can also say that your door is always open, but that you cannot continue to hold your hand out and keep getting it chopped off.

    Hugs!

    Joy

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    1. Thank you Joy for caring...much love to you <3

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    2. Much love to you too Sweetheart! You are a really nice person. <3

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  4. The point at which you give up on someone is never easy to figure out. You are right...there is a constant battle between the heart and the mind and it will zap you of every ounce of energy you possess. My advice would be that if that person you are extending your hand to has repeatedly denied taking it, then it is time to lower it and let your entire being rest and get back to you. You have made the offer of friendship but you can not force it upon another. Yes, this cause great heartache and stress....but with each day you walk in the other direction, you will gain a bit of your strength back. There is nothing more painful than to have your love or friendship rejected for whatever reason BUT my friend, you are strong and you are a fighter. Stand tall and walk towards your goals and dig into them with all your heart. A true friendship is precious and should NEVER be taken for granted. A true friendship is love in the purest form....don't abuse it or waste it. You may never get it back if you do. You have so many who love you surrounding you who will lift you up and support you. My arms are open wide and this Mama Bear will always be there to cuddle you up. Ditterbear, I love you to infinity and beyond...<3

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    1. Awwww damn Pammie...That made me tear up!! I love you too and I know you are there for me...Huge hugs!!! <3

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    2. Pammie sure does know how to break it down and cause the tears!

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  5. You will know when it's time to
    Let go. And your true friends are there to hold you up. I had this happen to me with a close friend and I knew when it was over. You just do. But as one door closes, another opens. And I have met some of the most sincere and loving friends after. Know that I'm here for you Ditter

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  6. You know you can always chew on my ear, I hear they're quite tasty!

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    1. Thanks Mark...lol you're the best!

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  7. I've been there. I had a really good friend who after many years decided to end the friendship over such a petty thing. No matter how much I tried to save the friendship I came to the conclusion that it was time to let go. Why? Because the person just stopped caring for whatever reason they had. They gave up. Know that you Ditter are a wonderful and beautiful friend to me. Whoever has you in their life as a friend is feeling amazing.

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    1. I consider you a friend also...I'm sorry for your loss of a friend. I love you dearly <3

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  8. It is hard to lose a friend, but sometimes that is the only way to get peace in a situation. Tough and hard on the heart though.

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  9. Dit my personality is the same. I am assertive and I too don't have a filter, but that's what makes us unique. People can trust us because they know we won't BS them. My motto that I live by is "when the hand/heart that is extended keeps being pushed away/ignored and I start to feel badly about myself and seeing where I can change, or start to lose my self-confidence, my perkiness then it's time to walk away. It is not I that needs the personality overhaul. If we can't be accepted for who we are then its not our loss but theirs.

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    1. Thank you so much for commenting.... <3

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