Sunday, July 29, 2012

The Musings of Brian Collier: Six Sentence Sunday #3

The Musings of Brian Collier: Six Sentence Sunday #3: I'm participating in Six Sentence Sunday again and hope you like today's entry :)     “Remember when I said our first time would be...

Saturday, July 28, 2012

Control Freaks....Thoughts?

OK so I have dealt with certain control freaks in my time, but it seems that recently I have encountered it like a bloody religion! What makes a person want to control another person? Especially their spouse or companion? I mean get real! WTF? An individual marries another individual after falling in love with them just as they are! AFTER they tie the imaginary knot, suddenly you're not good enough! You must conform to the way they think you should be. What they don't realize, is you were this way when they married or dated you...so why change that? I'll tell you why...They are insecure and afraid...Cowards really, with a capital C! Men...You don't "let" your wife or "allow' her to do things! Shes your wife, not your Daughter!!  Women, you don't "let" your Husband spend his own money! He earned it...I mean come on! Why not love them for who they are? A piece of advice if you want to keep them...Re-evaluate whats important and get back to that first love...Ease up on the control issues before they become bitter and resent you for it! 50% of divorces are due to resentment. Women don't cheat because they want sex...They cheat because they want acceptance! Men cheat because sex is usually withheld. Why not allow a person to be themselves, live their dreams...I'd bet the farm the sex wouldn't be withheld...Try it~

Friday, July 20, 2012

It's that time!

OK, so every once in a while I don't watch where I put my feet. It's common knowledge amongst us clumsy ones, if you're not careful, you fall! Simple as that! Thing is, I like being clumsy! I like not always watching where I am going...not being so careful. Once in a while you stumble onto something that changes your life! Be it a Person, a career, or something spiritual! My life has taken many different routes in the past few months, and I have to say, I have no regrets! I have learned and achieved so much! It's actually spinning faster than I can keep up, and it's an incredible feeling! I have met some amazing People on this journey...People who have taught me things about myself I knew I was missing, but didn't take that step to grab on to it! I'm going straight to the top, and you know what? That's exactly where I deserve to be :) So remember this...Only the truly greats are born from determination..Don't give up EVER! Go after what you want...If you don't get it...There is something bigger and better around the next corner! I'm at the crossroads again, as attractive as East and West are, I've decided to keep heading North! Watch me fly!

Sunday, July 15, 2012

Jealousy....Thoughts?

What is jealousy? It's an emotion that stems from our own insecurities. I have never been a jealous person myself. Not that I haven't experienced it, I have...I just don't obsess over it! I have dealt with jealousy from others before and I must say...it will ruin a relationship faster than money problems! Which by the way is the number one cause of divorce in the United States! What causes us to have trust issues? I have heard it from the mouths of so many that it's caused from being cheated on. I don't think that's truly the case! I think it stems from cheating, not being cheated on! Our subconscious tends to think that others think and feel the same as we do. Therefore, if we have cheated, or are capable of cheating, we are automatically going to be insecure in our relationships. I have been guilty of it myself! I have cheated before, therefore I don't assume that I am not being cheated on. Make sense? I have also been the one that was cheated on. Here's the thing though...I asked my Dad once, long ago, if there was a man out there that wouldn't cheat! His reply to that was.. "Well, there are one or two....That SAY they wont, but no, there isn't a man that wont if given the right circumstance! So how do I take that....Hmmmm...Is it the "what you don't know wont hurt you" stand I should take, and turn a blind eye, or be watchful and exhausted all the time? I have talked with several Men about this subject, and they have all told me the same thing...If they do it, it means nothing to them...it's just an act in the moment! If a Woman does it, emotions are involved and therefore unforgivable in their book! So in other words...A Woman needs a reason to do it, and a Man just needs a place. Interesting. Any thoughts?

Friday, July 13, 2012

Fake Orgasm?.......Thoughts?

Why do so many Women fake orgasms? Why are we so quick to blame our partner? In all reality, it's not our partners fault! When two people initially begin seeing one another, They want to please each other to the point of putting their own personal likes aside to make the other happy. This is the beginning of the cycle of fake orgasms for years to come! If you cant be honest with one another about what pleases you, how you like it, or don't like it...How are they to know? After some time, it becomes the norm to fake it, to get it over with without hurting feelings. Now this tells me one important thing here...You obviously have feelings for your partner, to not want to hurt them by informing them they aren't doing what you like. Here's the thing though...If it goes on so long, how do you change it? How do you tell someone you have been faking it for months, or even years, it's not doing it for you? The first thing that is bound to happen is a blow to the pride, the loss of trust...because initially you have been lying to them all along. How do you break the cycle? My advice to newly found couples...be honest from the start..You aren't going to lose someone by letting them know what you like and what does it for you. Try it...It really works ;)

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Fantasy VS Reality----Thoughts?

In everyday life we tend to fantasize. No one knows we are doing it. It can happen in the middle of a meeting...in class...in bed with someone... Having a conversation with a friend, Watching T.V...eating dinner...etc etc. What makes us fantasize? Is life really that bad? I believe we fantasize for different reasons, but ultimately it's because we are not satisfied! Something is missing in our lives that bring the fantasy world into play! Do you fantasize...or are you a realist? How about in your reading material? I like a little of both and I will be the first to admit that I fantasize quite often! Reality sometimes sucks the big one! How deep into fantasy do you go? I noticed in my group yesterday, someone wrote a book about sexy Zombies! 0_o Yeah....
A few months ago I read a couple of books by Dawn Montgomery in her WTF Dragon series. Dragon shifters, now there is a fantasy! In reality, would I want a Dragon shifter? I would have said, um no...That was until I read No Dragon No problem! I believe I would have to keep Dash! He was beyond delicious! The humor was way too cute also! Book 3 is in the works I hear...Another welcome addition to my fantasy! ;) On a more serious note, if my life was perfect and I had all I wanted or needed...I'd still want a taste of Dash! haha~

Monday, July 9, 2012

On the couch with Wayne Caraway!



Before we get started, I just want to say: Thank you for allowing me to interview you! I know how busy you are and this is a great honor for me! Have some coffee while I get these questions ready. :)

  How old were you when you began to realize you were a dreamer?

Oh wow! I've been a dreamer since I can remember, I'm not sure when I realized there was a name for it lol
When I was around eight or nine my Mom bought me a key chain that said "only those who dare to dream can make a dream come true" it totally messed me up mentally in a good way, from that day forward I was living in a fantasy world a dream world if you will, I created Wayne's world long before there was a movie ;)
 
Did you feel different from others, see things differently growing up?
 
Yes, I knew I was different at a young age, I spent a lot of time alone, like most kids I believed in myself but unlike most kids I didn't allow life to take away that belief system, it's like I never grew up, nothing ever shattered my belief in myself, I believed then and I do now that if I can dream it I can accomplish it.
I accepted that I was different and I have to say that for the most part my friends did as well, everyone knew I had huge dreams and very few tried to discourage me.
 

I met you when you were very young, playing music. You were good at that also! Tell me about what drove you to be the best!

I'm not sure I can put that into words....I'll try.... you know that old saying "if you're not the lead dog the view never changes"? that's how I felt and still do, there was always this drive to be better, in my mind second place was the first loser and I hate to lose with a passion, I'm very competitive by nature. I believe if you are going to do something be better than the best, if what you're doing does not provoke that kind of passion and commitment from you then find something that does.
I remember walking into a music store at 10 years old, I had saved enough money to buy my first set of new drums, the manager of that store was A J, I'll never forget him looking down over the counter and asking me, you want to be the best? I replied Yes Sir, he said then practice a minimum of four hours a day, well I took his advice and didn't miss a day for 4 years, right before my 15th birthday I got a job playing drums for my musical hero's,, I spent the next several years playing with what I consider to be some of the best in the business, all because one man told me what it took to be the best and I believed him. I don't know if that answers your question, all I know is that there is this white hot passion inside me that drives me, I can't explain in and I cant control it, if you're not going to be the best then why do it?


Is there anyone in particular who influenced you to open your mind and heart and reach for your dreams?

Other than my Mom buying me that Key chain and telling me that I could do anything I wanted, I can't say there was anyone else.
I had a huge imagination as a kid and a belief system that matched it, as a kid I was fascinated by interviews of successful people and I always thought to myself, they aren't any different than me, if they can do it then I can too.


I have noticed that you continually motivate and reach out to others...You have to honestly care about others to have that gift. What motivates YOU?

What motivates me is the way I feel, I want others to feel this way, I can't imagine living a life of acceptance and settling, is that really living? if this is as good as it gets then why should I get up in the morning? seriously, what's the point? I don't believe we were created to accept life the way it is, I'm not playing the cards I was dealt, if I don't like my hand I'm throwing it back and demanding a new hand, I may have to change tables but I'll go get what I want and what I feel I deserve, that's the way we need to look at life, if you don't like it then change it, its really that simple but we make it complicated with our poor pitiful me excuses, look what happened to me, look what they did, look what I lost, look what, look what ,look what.....How about shut up, get up and say SO WHAT!!! life happened, people hurt and sometimes bad things happen, but so what, its not the end, it does not mean give up and settle it just means you're human. It also means you have an opportunity to prove to yourself and the whole world just how powerful you are, that you cant be beat by life or anything it throws your way, failure isn't an option unless you make it one, the only limits we have are the ones we place upon ourselves, life is like a book, its our story and we are the Author, if we don't like the way its turning out all we have to do is keep writing.
If I can spend my life teaching people to get up and say so what, then I will have lived my dream life....that's what motivates me.


You may as well get comfortable, take the couch! Liz Crowe was the last person on that couch and she smells nice, so no worries ;)

Liz! what is that you're wearing? is that sunflowers? (Wayne asked that, not me, Liz)


I know that you are writing a book. Can you tell me a little about it?

I was sitting in my recliner one evening watching a talent show when this gentleman walked out on the stage, I say walked, but what I mean is he did the best he could, he had several physical handicaps and could barely walk, he was asked how old he was and when he opened his mouth his speech wasn't very clear either, his answer was he didn't know, he was found in a box on the side of the road so he had no way of knowing who or how old he was, he started to sing and I was blown away at his amazing skill, not talent you see talent is what we are born with but skill is what we develop our talents into and he had wanted to be a singer for as long as he could remember so he practiced and studied other artists and practiced some more, nobody would have given it a second thought had he not ever tried to do anything with his life, after all weren't the odds stacked against him? he didn't even consider not trying, he wanted therefore he went after.
After watching his performance I wrote in my pad a couple questions that popped in my head.
What is it that makes one sit on the couch and complain about life and or circumstances and another overcome all obstacles and create their dreams?
What is it that causes one to accept that this is as good as it gets but pushes another to succeed?
What is it in a man that disables one but enables another? How can one face what most would consider life and ordinary circumstances and completely give up and just exist?
What makes one person live a life of acceptance and settling yet another faces extreme challenges maybe even physical handicaps and seems to become stronger with each challenge?
What makes them become more defiant, more willing to lay it all on the line and face life with the attitude that nothing can defeat me, with the determination that I am bigger than anything life can throw my way.
Why it is that adversity causes some to break and others to break records?
I decided to go on a journey looking for the answers to my questions and what I found to be the answer was so simple it blew my mind so I decided to write a book that will help others see that they too can do or be anything they want to do or be.


When you finish that book, I want the first autographed copy!! Agree to that and you can have the remote! :)

The remote? Is that really fair Ditter the Great? after all I am a man, how can I argue when you have something no man can live without....the coveted remote.
you have a deal!

Where do you see yourself in 10 years?

Living my dream life, writing and traveling the country, speaking on stage and holding workshops for people who want to get up, people who Dare to Dream.


I would like to add that I visit your Dare to Dream page a couple of times a day. It has changed my life. It's changed the way I see things, The way I see others, and opened my mind to the potential that was there all along! Thank you for that! It's been an honor to know you...

Thank you Ditter. The response I have gotten from that page in a short amount of time has been amazing, I consider it an honor to get to be involved in so many people's lives on a daily basis.


There are two recliners in this couch..If you would be so kind as to move your feet, I'll take the one on the left AND the remote, while you tell me about Wayne Caraway! :)

Just as I was getting comfortable lol
So you want to hear about Wayne Caraway huh? well where do I  start? I'm just a country boy from Plant City Florida that refused to buy into the self limiting beliefs that so many buy into.

I love to laugh and think I have a pretty good sense of humor, most of all I love to make others laugh.
I still have a very strong passion for music and even though I don't really play anymore music is still a huge part of my life.
I am addicted to motivational material and read as well as listen to it daily.
I am also a Network Marketer, I got involved in that business about 3 years ago and I love it, it allows me to help others learn how to make extra money from home, it also allows me into their lives where I can deliver my message of hope and inspiration, I feel it goes hand in hand with what I do, if I can teach people to look within and start to dream again, start to believe in themselves again and also teach them how to create their own financial security its a win win for me and for them.
But to sum me up I'd say I'm a dreamer.
If you don't mind I'd like to share an article I wrote entitled I'm a dreamer, I think it describes best who Wayne Caraway is.


I'm a Dreamer
It seems as though the odds are stacked against you. No matter how hard you try you just cant seem to break free. You have dreams, goal's, even a plan of action but just cant seem to get any traction and gain momentum.
It feels as though its always two steps forward and three steps back. Every light at the end of the tunnel turns out to be a train. There's no hope, what's the point anymore? Why not just give up and accept that this is life? Is this "normal" ? Maybe everyone is destined to live this unstable and never knowing what's next adventure we call life.
After all, Logic is screaming, demanding even that we slide our dreams over to the category of fantasy with no hope of ever becoming reality. We've all heard it a thousand times...you have to adapt to your surroundings, conform to your situation and accept your circumstances and take life one day at a time.
Some of us have even tried that "way of life". Tried to be what society calls normal and just take what life dishes out. Play the hand we were dealt and try to minimize our losses while hoping for a better hand.
Oh but something inside you cant be silenced. This passion cant be pushed down. Your thirst cant be quenched and the fire that burns so hot within you cant be put out. A silent rage is building inside you and everything within you is screaming don't quit.
Logic has no say here, you're a dreamer and dreamer's don't settle, we can't, to settle is to deny our true self and live a lie, to try and settle is to commit to dying a slow and miserable death within.
You must push on with your head held high and be true to yourself. Accept that life will throw hurdles but hurdles were made to be jumped. You can't quit! It's not even an option because you were born for greatness, destined to be a leader, designed to achieve so pick your head up and announce to the world I will not be defeated!
I am like a rubber ball the harder you knock me down the higher I will bounce! I will succeed! I am a dreamer therefore I will accomplish! Dreams are not chased but created.
I will defy all odds and show the world who I am and what I'm capable of. That I am everything I need to be in order to succeed. I will continue to feed the fire until it burns out of control with no hope of containment. I am a dreamer!
Only those who "Dare to Dream" can make a dream come true. All my dreams will come true because I cannot be controlled by the fear of the unknown, the challenge of the day nor the dream stealers around me, I will persist until I win, not hoping, not wondering but moving forward with confidence in my ability to plan, to set and achieve my goals, with the quiet assurance that nothing can stop me or even slow me down. I am me and I accept that and others opinions of me will not affect my own.
Every great dream begins with a dreamer, always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience and the passion to reach for the stars and change the world
I cannot fail because I will not quit! I accept no reality other than the one I create! I am a dreamer!


Ditter the Great it has been a pleasure doing this interview, I'd like to thank you, not only for your time but for the kind words as well, using the remote as leverage gave you an unfair advantage in your negotiations, but I do respect someone that plays to win :)

Thank you Wayne Caraway!! I truly enjoyed this interview! Oh, one more thing... I love to win also! :)

For motivation and inspiration http://www.facebook.com/#!/waynecaraway

If you are interested in working with Wayne! www.getpaid2getpaid.com

Check out his Blog! www.waynecaraway.com

 




Friday, July 6, 2012

Dare to Dream inspired me..

I stumbled across this page a couple of months ago. The name is what initially caught my eye. Dare to Dream...What a catchy phrase! This is where my inspirational journey began! Funny thing was, I remembered meeting this guy years ago, when he was only 8 years old. He was an incredibly talented kid playing the drums! I remember thinking, He is going to do great things! Many years passed (I wont say how many) 0_o you understand :) I find that same kid, doing great things! I "Liked" his page and began reading. I started going back every morning for motivational reasons. As most of you know, I wrote a Blog a few weeks ago, called crossroads. This very inspirational page with such insight is what moved me to thinking along the lines I did! It has opened so many doors for me, just by the truth and feeling in each post! It's helped me believe more in myself, which in turn boosted my self confidence! Now I go a couple of times a day for inspiration and motivation! I can do anything I set my mind to...I can be anything I want to be! It's brought me peace, and an incredible sense of what CAN be...Thank you Wayne Caraway, from the little boy on the drums, to the amazing Man you grew to be!

http://www.facebook.com/waynecaraway

Male Romance Authors...Thoughts?

I read my first Erotic Romance novel a couple of months ago, and I must say, it was a pleasant surprise! I had always avoided them due to the fact I honestly felt that a man could never capture the essence of true romance! Another reason, I suppose I thought that the erotic side of it would seem more like porn than something beautiful. I was wrong on both counts! Sascha Illyvich was my first encounter with the unknown :) I picked up Sidella's Surrender out of curiosity. Not only was the story itself a great read but the writing style was rocking also! I thoroughly enjoyed it! 2 thumbs up Sascha! My question to you all...Given a choice, would you purchase a female Romance writer over a male, and why? Have you read a romance novel written by a man, and if so...what are your thoughts? One more question to the male Authors..Do you use a male pin name or a universal one, so no one knows? If so, why? I think these male Authors need to come out of the literal closet and get the credit they deserve!!

Thursday, July 5, 2012

Wayne Caraway - Dare to Dream: Life without limits

Wayne Caraway - Dare to Dream: Life without limits: A person is limited only by the thoughts that he chooses.—James Allen, "As a Man Thinketh" Life has no limits other than the ones we pl...